One of the first steps on your journey is to be kind and patient with yourself. Know that you are always doing the very best you can, given the circumstances, awareness, and the beliefs that you have. In fact, you have always done the best you could. This goes for everyone else, too, no matter what they did to you or to someone else – they were also doing the very best they could in that moment. Someone who hurts another being must be in a lot of pain themselves. When they hurt someone else, they are expressing their own inner pain, whether they know it or not. They don’t need more hatred or punishment, they need help with their own discord.
Another important step is to acknowledge that you have the power over how you feel – because no one else other than you is thinking your thoughts. What you think affects how you feel – and you can change your thoughts. I also believe that you attract what happens to you for a reason. Perhaps this seemingly difficult contrast is of value to you on your eternal path somehow? You learn, you grow, you change, you evolve because of everything you have been through.
The last step, which I think is one of the most important early steps, is to be willing to forgive. Forgive yourself, and forgive those who you feel have hurt you. Carrying around resentment and guilt only creates more suffering for you. By forgiving yourself and others, you let go of the pain and can finally begin to heal your body. And yes, the forgiving part is unconditional.
As a conclusion: How do you begin to feel better? Well, I believe that the core problem is how you feel about yourself, because it affects everything. So, begin by being kind to yourself! Forgive yourself, and be willing to start giving yourself love and compassion. Love can shed light even in the darkest of hearts and heal even the deepest of wounds. It all begins with your thoughts.
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